Which I am sure has something to do with the fact that Finn had such a great day today. His symptoms lately seem to be getting more and more severe. It's frightening to watch him withdrawal further into himself and see his repetitive behaviors increase and increase, while his interactions with us simultaneously decrease. Today, I was engaged. I was looked in the eye. I was kissed on the face. It was all very reassuring. It was almost like he knew I needed to be reassured that he still was there, and still loves me.
We sat in the corner at church, by the wall. It was my husband's idea. Less stimulation then sitting in the wide open middle of the chapel where we usually sit. Finn didn't have room to physically stim because we had less space then usual sitting on the side, so he was forced to vocally stim. He repeated his ABCs and 123s over and over again for most of church. A couple of times he had to cover his head with the blanket and bury his head in my lap, but we got through church without any major meltdown which was a small miracle. Part of me feels guilty that people around us have to listen to a toddler repeat 1/2 of the ABCs over and over again for one hour, but the mom part of me needs to let Finn do whatever he needs to do to cope, as long as he's not hurting himself or someone else.
Today was the first time since I had concerns for ASD that I took him to nursery. Mostly because he had a runny nose for so long, and so I would leave with him after sacrament. I was really nervous because he has been SO attached to me these past few weeks that he can hardly stand to let me pee or shower alone. However, it was just like every other time I have dropped him off at nursery. He saw the toys, and he was off. He didn't look back, didn't cry, didn't melt down. It was pretty much best case scenario for us at church today.
After church, and a nap we went over to my friend Karina's house. She, Vila, Jasmina and Karina's sisters and mom threw a small little baby shower for me, which was so sweet. It was such a nice time to spend with friends who are so important to me. Since we have started to get married, have kids, work, and go away to graduate school it isn't very often that we all are able to gather together so it was such a sweet time to me.
Finnigan pretty much ignored the other kids, except to cry when a toy got taken away from him. Which is typical. His friend Sergio was excited to see him, and repeatedly yelled at him, "Finn! Finn! HEY! Hey FINN!" while my kid stood off in his own little world oblivious to the fact that his friend was wanting his attention. It was pretty cute and funny how persistent Sergio was. I think Finn needs a friend like that who will persistently yell in his ear until he realizes that he's being engaged. Because, eventually Finn figured it out, and they went in the room and jumped around together on Sergio's bed and played for a short time together, until Finn came back out to play by himself again. It is likely the most engaged he has been with another kid in weeks and weeks.
We have 5 appointments in the next 6 weekdays, so things are starting to happen as far as starting interventions with Finn, So expect more updates soon.
We appreciate the love and support,
PS sorry for the lack of pictures lately, I haven't been taking any. I am sure that will change soon with the new baby. =)
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